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Podcast: After the Affair
Episode: 170. Why “Why Did They Cheat?” Is the Wrong Question
Description: After betrayal, one question tends to dominate the mind more than any other:
“Why did they cheat?”
It feels logical. Necessary. Like the answer might finally bring peace.
But what if that question, however understandable, is quietly keeping you stuck?
In this Christmas Eve episode, Luke explores why the search for “why” often leads to more rumination, more self-blame, and more pain, rather than healing. He offers a gentle but powerful reframe that helps you step out of analysis and into integration without dismissing the depth of what you’ve been through.<...