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Podcast: After the Affair
Episode: 170.5 You Didn’t Fail Because They Had Unmet Needs
Description: After betrayal, many people carry a quiet belief:
“If I had been more, they wouldn’t have needed someone else.”
This short Christmas Day bonus episode gently dismantles that idea.
Luke explores why unmet needs are internal experiences, why adults are responsible for expressing and managing them, and how taking responsibility for someone else’s unmet needs leads to self-erasure.
This is not an episode about fixing, analysing, or understanding the past.
It’s an invitation to stop punishing yourself, and to rest.
If you’re listening today, I’m r...