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Podcast: After the Affair
Episode: 172. Are You Healing… or Just Protecting Yourself?
Description: After betrayal, many people notice a change in themselves.
They’re calmer.
More regulated.
Less reactive.
But they’re also more distant. Less open. Less connected.
In this episode, Luke explores a question that quietly emerges during recovery:
“Am I actually healing… or am I just protecting myself better?”
This episode breaks down how emotional defences form after betrayal, why they’re not a problem, and how they can sometimes begin to limit connection if left unexamined. With clear, practical language, Luke helps you distinguish between heal...