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Podcast: After the Affair
Episode: 176. Pacing: Why Rushing Your Healing Slows It Down
Description: After betrayal, many people feel an intense pressure to move quickly, to decide, to understand, to feel better.
That urgency often sounds logical and responsible.
But more often than not, it’s fear wearing a sensible disguise.
In this episode, Luke Shillings explores the concept of pacing, not as avoidance or indecision, but as a skilful, intentional way of healing. You’ll learn why betrayal disrupts our sense of time and safety, how urgency can masquerade as intuition, and why moving faster than you can integrate often leads to burnout, doubt, and repeated reve...