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Podcast: After the Affair
Episode: 177. Intrusive Thoughts During Sex After Betrayal
Description: Many betrayed partners experience intrusive thoughts or images when trying to be sexually intimate during reconciliation, often images of their partner with the affair partner.
These thoughts can feel shocking, disturbing, and deeply confusing, especially when you’ve consciously chosen to stay and work on the relationship.
In this episode, affair recovery expert Luke Shillings speaks directly to this experience.
He explains why intrusive thoughts often show up specifically during sex, why this isn’t about jealousy or sexual failure, and how the nervous system responds to betrayal in moments of vulnerability. You’ll lea...