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Podcast: After the Affair
Episode: 182. It Just Happened. The Myth of the Sudden Affair
Description: When someone tries to explain a betrayal, one phrase often comes up: “It just happened.”
But for the betrayed partner, this explanation rarely brings clarity or peace. Instead, it often creates more confusion. How can something so painful and life-altering simply “happen”?
In this episode, Luke explores why this phrase is so common after infidelity and why it often feels unsatisfying to the person who was betrayed. He explains how affairs rarely begin with a single moment of betrayal, but instead develop gradually through small shifts in boundaries, emotional connection, and attention.
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