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The Virtual Couch

The Virtual Couch is a mental health podcast hosted by Tony Overbay, a licensed marriage and family therapist with more than two decades of experience who works with individuals and couples. Through relatable stories, practical psychology, and evidence-based tools, Tony helps listeners better understand relationships, parenting, addiction, emotional maturity, and personal growth, while also supporting those navigating faith crises and deconstruction from high-demand religions. The podcast offers clear strategies to break unhealthy patterns, improve communication, and build a more grounded sense of self while approaching life’s challenges with insight, clarity, and humor.

Teaching Our Kids (and our inner-child) Emotional Intelligence

39 mins; April 05, 2023

Alexa Lovell - One Year After a Devastating Accident, Surviving Setbacks and Diving into the Details

82 hours 42 mins; March 29, 2023

Entrepreneur, Podcaster, Writer or D) All of the Above - Zlatko Bijelic On Taking What Life Gives You

51 mins; March 23, 2023

The Power of Community to Combat Addiction - Chandler Rogers on How the Relay App Repels Porn

53 mins; March 22, 2023

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on Modeling Healthy Relationships, Trust, ADHD, Narcissism, and EFT vs. Differentiation

67 hours 58 mins; March 15, 2023

If You Aren't Willing to Have It (Anxiety, Fear, Doubt, Depression et al.) You Will - Understanding Acceptance

37 mins; March 08, 2023

What if I Don't Like Marshmallows? Revisiting the "Marshmallow Test" and other Pop-psychology "Myths"

32 mins; March 01, 2023

Habit, Addict or Unconscious Response? The Latest Research on Why We Do What We Do!

56 mins; February 22, 2023

Dealing with Discomfort In Relationships...and Life!

45 mins; February 15, 2023

Listen to Your Gut: What Your Tummy Tells You About Your Anxiety - Camila Smith, LCSW

41 mins; February 08, 2023

McKinley Overbay - When Your Moment of Insane Courage Leads to Big Change…and a Little Bit of Throw Up

44 mins; February 02, 2023

Eating Chocolate - An Emotional Control Strategy or a Way to Stay Present?

43 mins; February 01, 2023

You Say Faith Crisis, I Say Faith Journey - Understanding Both Sides of the Fence of Faith

50 mins; January 25, 2023

10 Predictors of a Bad Romantic Relationship Explained

53 mins; January 18, 2023

Tackling Trauma - More Lessons from "The Body Keeps the Score"

48 mins; January 11, 2023

The Psychology of the Churro - 8 Mental Health Lessons Learned from a Disneyland Christmas

34 mins; January 04, 2023

BONUS - The ONLY Goal Setting Episode You'll Ever Need w/Neal Hooper, Creator of The Achievement Tribe

56 mins; January 01, 2023

The Fun Habit - An Examination of Modern Approaches to Happiness w/Michael Rucker Ph.D.

43 mins; December 29, 2022

Whether You Can or Can't You Are Correct! Exploring the Expectation Effect w/Nate Christensen APCC

49 mins; December 20, 2022

The Very Most Bestest Way to Change - aka Cognitive Flexibility

54 mins; December 14, 2022

Hold Up, I Can't Do That...Says Who? Losing our Limiting Beliefs

42 mins; December 07, 2022

Hold Up, I Can't Do That...Says Who? Losing our Limiting Beliefs

42 mins; December 07, 2022

ACT Helps You Do Life Better - Period! Dr. Michael Twohig on Anxiety, OCD, Trauma, and More

59 mins; November 30, 2022

Gratitude Makes You Poop!

34 mins; November 23, 2022

Waving the White Flag Against Violent Communication - A Waking Up to Narcissism Crossover Episode

54 mins; November 16, 2022

Waving the White Flag Against Violent Communication - A Waking Up to Narcissism Crossover Episode

54 mins; November 16, 2022

Reaction vs. Response - How to “Slow Your Roll”

40 mins; November 09, 2022

The Benefits of Being Authentic, Healthy Ego vs Narcissism, and Non-Violent Communication

47 mins; November 02, 2022

Preston Pugmire on Discovering Your Mission, Values, and Purpose

61 hours 14 mins; October 26, 2022

Attention ALL Parents! Part 2 - Navigating the "Family System," the Role of "Presence and Radiance" and You Really Are Trying Your Best!

53 mins; October 19, 2022

Attention ALL Parents! Parenting IS More Difficult These Days - Here's Why and What to Do (Part 1)

43 mins; October 12, 2022

Attention ALL Parents! Parenting IS More Difficult These Days - Here's Why and What to Do (Part 1)

43 mins; October 12, 2022

Stop Being So Clingy! Why Anxiously Attached People Can Be Exhaustingly Amazing!

60 hours 10 mins; October 05, 2022

Stop Being So Clingy! Why Anxiously Attached People Can Be Exhaustingly Amazing!

60 hours 10 mins; October 05, 2022

Exploring a Better Way to Think About Your Thoughts

27 mins; September 28, 2022

Monica Tanner on the "Secrets of Happily Ever After" in Marriage

53 mins; September 22, 2022

Therapy, Narcissistic Leaders, and Healthy Ego - Kurt Francom Interviews Tony Overbay on Leading Saints

123 hours 25 mins; September 13, 2022

Don't Go to Bed Angry, A Penny Saved is a Penny Earned, Don't Judge - Debunking Modern Day Proverbs

39 mins; September 08, 2022

Finally THE Blueprint for Happiness (part 1 of 2)

47 mins; August 31, 2022

What it Feels Like to Be YOU (And Why So Many People Think They Know YOU Better Than YOU!)

47 mins; August 25, 2022

The Secret to Emotional Growth and Maturity w/Nate Christensen, APCC

51 mins; August 17, 2022

Alana and Luke Gordon On Navigating Betrayal Trauma - Love, Honesty and Control (You Can Only Pick 2)

80 hours 3 mins; August 10, 2022

Examining 4 Marriage Myths - From Russ Harris's Book "ACT With Love"

39 mins; August 03, 2022

You Are What You Think...Or You Think What You Are? Looking at Implicit vs Explicit Memory

47 mins; July 28, 2022

The Positive Aspects of Negativity - Why Dissatisfaction is Hardwired

32 mins; July 21, 2022

Therapy Tips For When You Can't See a Therapist (featuring The Angry Therapist)

37 mins; July 13, 2022

Why It's Important to Forgive but Not Necessarily to Forget

32 mins; July 08, 2022

Creating Intimacy vs. Seeking Validation in Marriage, Exploring our “Shadows” and Narcissism or Emotional Immaturity w/ Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

63 hours 44 mins; June 30, 2022

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do - Amy Morin, LCSW

43 mins; June 21, 2022

How To Turn Big Emotions into Healing - Taming Your Trauma

39 mins; June 15, 2022

Understanding Emotional Invalidation - Why Some People Don't Feel Safe in Conversations

38 mins; June 09, 2022

Doomscrolling! When You Just Can't Stop Scrolling Through The Ick

30 mins; June 02, 2022

Sorry...I'm Probably Saying This Wrong! Understanding Rejection Sensitivity

43 mins; May 26, 2022

Shame, Shame Go Away...And Don't Come Back Another Day!

38 mins; May 17, 2022

Virtual Couch Bookclub - Tony and Nate Christensen, APCC Review "Dopamine Nation," by Anna Lembke

48 mins; May 03, 2022

How to Improve Your Marriage in 45 Minutes or Less - Understanding Influence vs. Control

44 mins; April 27, 2022

Stop Trying to Think You're Way Out of a Thinking Problem

42 mins; April 20, 2022

Do You Want Advice or Do You Want Validation?

35 mins; April 13, 2022

Hope in Healing - Working w/Couples Through Betrayal, Pornography and Shame w/Sam Tielemans LMFT

56 mins; April 05, 2022

Alexa's Road to Recovery - My Daughter Alexa Shares the Struggles of Recovering from a Devastating Accident

88 hours 19 mins; March 30, 2022

BONUS Discussing Depression with Professional Comedian Paul Gilmartin - Host of the Mental Illness Happy Hour

56 mins; March 24, 2022

Sure You're Cute, But Can We Talk? - Rediscovering the Levels of Intimacy

41 mins; March 22, 2022

Analysis Paralysis - When Not Making a Choice is the Choice You Make

43 mins; March 16, 2022

A Marriage Therapist's 11 Tips for a Happier Marriage

42 mins; March 09, 2022

Have You Ever Wondered if YOU Have ADHD? Exploring the 7 Types of ADD/ADHD

42 mins; March 03, 2022

Tony's Pre-Therapy Check List w/Bonus "Why Are Relationships Complicated?"

45 mins; February 22, 2022

Why We Need People - The Rules for Constructive Communication

69 hours 18 mins; February 17, 2022

Lessons Learned Through Tragedy (At Least Until a Time Machine is Invented)

31 mins; February 09, 2022

Dealing With Things You Don't Want To Deal With - Psychological Flexibility

28 mins; February 02, 2022

Right? Wrong? It's All About Context!

44 mins; January 26, 2022

Let's Have a Positive Discussion about Voldemort...I Mean Pornography (part 1 of 2)

31 mins; January 19, 2022

The Dangerous Dance of the Avoidant/Anxiously Attached Couple

43 mins; January 11, 2022

The Need for Self-Care w/Suzanne Falter - Podcast Host and Author of "The Extremely Busy Woman's Guide to Self-Care"

46 mins; January 04, 2022

What Have We Learned in 2021? Communication, Differentiation, and You Don't Know What You Don't Know!

54 mins; December 29, 2021

The ONLY Goal Setting Episode You'll Ever Need w/Neal Hooper host of The Happiness Playbook

61 hours 23 mins; December 21, 2021

All Up in Your Feelings? One Simple Tool to Get Out of Your Head and Back into Your Life!

34 mins; December 15, 2021

Why Wanting to Be Happy May Backfire

38 mins; December 07, 2021

Night Owl vs Morning Lark - When Is the Best Time to Make a Decision?

33 mins; November 29, 2021

Seeing is Believing? No, it’s the Other Way Around! Plus Many More Fascinating Facts About Our Minds w/Nate Christensen, APCC

57 mins; November 22, 2021

Why Opposites Don't Attract PLUS Tony's New Parenting Course is Part of Nate Bagley's Relationship Mastery Pack!

60 hours 40 mins; November 17, 2021

Why We Care What Others Think - The Need for External Validation

37 mins; November 10, 2021

Now It Makes More Sense! How Context Creates Connected Conversations

35 mins; November 01, 2021

Am I the Narcissist? Exploring Narcissistic Traits and Tendencies (from the Waking Up to Narcissism podcast)

54 mins; October 28, 2021

Hey, I Love The Way You're Reading The Title of This Episode - Why We Need More Compliments in Our Lives

27 mins; October 26, 2021

Did You Hear the Latest? Psychologists Say Gossip is a Social Skill!

33 mins; October 20, 2021

How Certain Are You? Exploring Memory Through Popular Myths

40 mins; October 12, 2021

Tony Speaking at Leading Saints LIVE October 16, 2021 - Narrowing the Gap w/God, Mental Health, Faith Journeys, Communication and More!

26 mins; October 07, 2021

To Be Heard Is To Be Healed - Connecting the 4 Pillars of Communication

36 mins; October 05, 2021

Give Yourself A Little Grace, Change Takes Time!

38 mins; September 28, 2021

The Need to Finish Things Meets Procrastination - How the Ziegarnik Effect Impacts Mental Health

34 mins; September 22, 2021

What's Stopping You? Discovering the "You" in Be-You-Tiful w/McKinley Overbay

27193263 hours 39 mins; September 14, 2021

How to Be Happy...Scientifically Speaking

41 mins; September 08, 2021

How to Rebuild Trust w/ Geoff Steurer, LMFT Host of From Crisis to Connection

55 mins; August 31, 2021

Why Am I the Last Person to Know What to Do with My Life?

41 mins; August 25, 2021

Take Control Of Your Own Life w/Preston Pugmire Host of Next Level Life

53 mins; August 17, 2021

Let Your Values Guide You to Happiness, Purpose, and Connection

40 mins; August 11, 2021

Putting the Light Into Gaslight - Exploring the 4 Types of Gaslighting

53 mins; August 04, 2021

All You Need is Love...But What Kind of Love? Simplifying Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love

40 mins; July 28, 2021

What I Did During My Summer Vacation (aka A Therapist's Take on Disneyland)

52 mins; July 21, 2021

Your Brain Doesn't Have a Delete Button - A Thought is a Thought, a Feeling is a Feeling

29 mins; July 14, 2021

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